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| Monday, June 10, 2002 @ 07:06 A friend was explaining her view on poly relationships over the weekend. Let me state that I don't think she feels that way anymore, this was her view prior to getting involved with a poly partner. Her idea was that you only have one day and if you're working and sleeping and dealing with family, then that one day only has a few hours left to share with someone special. If you divide it amongst many someones, that's less time for each. The conclusion being that if you're willing to subdivide that minute time, each person gets less and is, therefore, worth less than if you had just one. Obviously, that's not how I see it. Listening to her helped me formulate my own thoughts better. Talking with the boi about her Mistress and her submissive and how I just accept them without competition or jealousy has also helped me clarify my own poly views. We don't have just a day. We only have the moment. In this moment I would rather be with someone I love than at work (since I'm not currently in a job that I love) or sleeping or with family. If I am sharing this moment with someone I love it doesn't matter to me how they spent all the other moments in their day or in their lifetime. In fact, spending time recapping the other moments in our lives makes it part of our relationship. So lying in bed with the boi listening to her talk about things she's done with her Mistress, makes that experience a part of what is growing with us. I'm so looking forward to hearing about her adventures with her Mistress this week. And I'm even looking forward to future times when one of is has a problem with another of our relationships and we're able to listen and maybe advise each other. It doesn't matter if the moment we're together is spent in sex or laughter or silence or SM or talking about our other someones. It just matters that the moment we spend together we are actually *together* and not just sharing space. And if you have the capacity within yourself to love many people (which I do) then each moment with each someone is spent that way and does not detract from the moments with the others. The words aren't quite there yet, but my sElf understands and that's what matters.
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