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On Holidays
| Thursday, December 15, 2005 @ 16:35 I read a post from a friend on how much she enjoys spending Christmas with her family. It was refreshing to read someone talk of love and companionship instead of stress and family drama -- about looking forward to family holidays. It just contrasts so strongly with what I'm going through right now. I am not a Christian, though I was raised one. I am not a Wiccan or other ritual-tradition pagan, though I did investigate those faiths for several years. I am not Jewish and I am not African-American (though if you look at some of my family, it is possible that there is African blood somewhere in the line). Nor do I believe in celebrating secular holidays. In my home, in my household, Xmas is a day that boy works and I get a paid day off. Same with Thanksgiving, Independence Day, New Year's, etc. This year, however, I am not in my own home. boy is not working outside the home. We are in my mother's home, with Xmas decorations and religious statues. On the 24th my brother and his wife will arrive to spend a week. (Their presents are already arriving via FedEx and DHL.) I'll be expected to "celebrate" with them and my sister, both here at Mom's and with Dad and his wife. I'll be "strongly encouraged" to visit grandparents homes and "celebrate" with them. While I enjoy spending time with family and will be grateful for the chance to see extended family all in one place (since I'm still on crutches), I prefer not to do that under the auspices of a holiday. boy expressed his anxieties to me last night. he's also uncomfortable with the constant emphasis on Xmas and how to afford Xmas presents. We're broke. Mom is broke and on temporary disability. My sister and her partner are broke. And most of the conversations and e-mails in my family the past five days have been about Xmas lists and buying presents for various gift exchanges. boy likes my family and enjoys spending time with them. hed just rather it not be about Xmas and Christianity and buying presents no one can afford. Sunday we are going to a party in Kansas City. We're basically ignoring the fact that it is a holiday party. We're eagerly anticipating it as our first leather/bdsm event in nearly two months. And it will be our first excursion together since my accident. A chance to spend time with other M/s and D/s people is something we have missed. We'll be polite and respectful of everyone who is gung ho about Xmas. It will be good practice for dealing with my family. It would just be nice if they could be polite and respectful of our beliefs.
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